Have you ever felt like your dream, aka your manifestation, always seems to be a little out of reach? The other day I received a question from a reader that absolutely shook me. She wrote to me that she was “curious about situations when you wanted something specific, (a house in my case) but someone made a better offer ( which you could not match ) and you did not get it ? Like how to see the positive side of this if you felt this house was fantastic and was the best you have ever visited ?. “
As the empath that I am, I couldn’t help but mentally put myself in her shoes and relate to times in my life where there was something that I wanted so badly and I knew it was meant for me but it didn’t happen. Because at the end of the day, things don’t always go how we want them to in life, am I right? And isn’t it our duty to deny the disappointment and think positively? Like that time I didn’t get the lead in the school play when I knew it was totally mine. Or when my business idea didn’t quite turn out the way my manifestation efforts intended it to?
If you are new to manifestation, you may want to read this post, A beginners guide to manifesting.
This situation really got me thinking deeply about how I deal when manifestations or things that I want ultimately don’t work out for me. I also paid attention to stories my mentors & friends have shared with me over the years. You can download my FREE Manifestation Mindset Makeover Guide here. Here are a few things that I notice about how successful women handle situations like this…
But first, watch this video:
Related Reading: The 8 phases of manifestation explained
6 things women who manifest do differently:
#1: Women who manifest… aren’t tied to anything working out in a certain way.
Part of the manifestation process is having faith and letting go. You’re always trusting in a higher power to handle the details of the things that you ultimately want. Your job is giving the universe a detailed plan for what you want to experience.
For example: I desired to live in a home with a soft light gray theme, I wanted soft grey walls and furniture. I wanted everything to feel clean and serene. I also wanted a bright white kitchen. All new appliances and lots of natural light. I also wanted pre-organized closets, all set up for me so I didn’t have to do that myself. These were the things on my vision board. And our new home, has all of that and more. I literally manifested it down to the details.
However, I also was set on a specific part of town that I really wanted to be in because of its proximity to my favorite walkable shopping area. I also put the name of the neighborhood on my vision board. I imagined me with my stroller walking all around the neighborhood with other moms with strollers. Interestingly enough, we found a place we loved in that area but we ended up not getting it. As upset about it as I was, the place we ended up moving into is way dreamier than I ever could have imagined.
And while it doesn’t have the exact name of the neighborhood I wanted, I have fully enjoyed walking with my stroller in my new neighborhood and meeting other moms and families doing the same. It also has walls with the perfect gray color scheme, a modern kitchen and the exact closet on my vision board.
After I put my intentions out there, I let go and I trusted that things were going to work out FOR me. I didn’t feel the need to control ALL of the details. The universe gave me the experience that I wanted, just in its own way. Trust in the end things are always working out in your favor.
#2: Women who manifest… don’t give up the belief.
The one thing I’ve noticed about the speed of my manifestations is that it seems directly related to my ability to be able to hold on to the belief in whatever it is that I want, is meant for me.
When I believe it’s mine & it’s on it’s way to me, it’s light I’ve got a magnet to it. This is where the work comes in. Do you doubt, give in to fear or endlessly worry about it coming? That behavior is giving up. The longer and stronger your ability to consistently believe and trust that it’s coming for you…the faster it comes. AND the longer you believe you are worthy of it, the longer it will stay in your life. I think this part gets easier after you’ve been practicing the laws of attraction and manifestation techniques for a while. I teach a lot of my manifestation secrets in my digital course, Soul Aligned.
There are ways to help you get through this process quickly. I’ve outlined the 3 phases of spiritual growth in my Manifestation Makeover e-book (download it here). I have a proven 3-step process that can help you fast track your progress.
#3: Women who manifest…decide.
Ultimately you get to choose what you want to experience in life. Once you decide and get clear around what it is that you truly want with clarity and precision…you can quantum leap your manifestations.
When you struggle with procrastination, indecision, fear of commitment and other low vibrational habits, you’ll stay in a continual cycle of “almost” or “not there yet”. I once was told that in order to move past the “I’m ready for this phase” all I needed to do was DECIDE “I’m here”.
From that place your internal frequency becomes magnetic to the things that you want.
This year, after I got my real estate license, I decided that I wanted to work for a particular company. I decided the look and feel of the homes I wanted to be working with and I decided that I was already in line with making a specific monthly income.
Once I decided that and convinced myself (and my subconscious mind) that’s where I was…my reticular arriving system began to create inside intelligence (intuitive inspiration) that led me toward acting and behaving in ways that kind of woman would. Sure enough, I hadn’t even finished my schooling when I got the opportunity to work for the firm I wanted and the type of homes I imagined. Listen to this podcast episode if you struggle with indecision.
#4: Women who manifest…don’t react to the world around them.
They know that whatever they see in the 3d reality outside of them is just a reflection of their old thoughts. So, instead of trying to fix it and change everything, they stay calm and begin to create what they want to see next.
#5: Women who manifest…know that jealousy & comparison are only signs of what it is they really want.
Women who powerfully manifest know that whenever they see someone around them get something that they ultimately want deep down, they see it as a sign that it is possible. They don’t look at it as discouragement.
#6: Women who manifest… know the importance of community.
Sometimes, manifesting can feel lonely because other people don’t always understand what it is that you are capable of. Not everyone else is going to be able to believe in your dreams or your vision. So, when you find supportive people to hold you accountable for your goals and dreams, it can feel so so good!
I created an online membership community for this specific reason. To not be alone on the journey of manifestation. Check out my membership community here.
Are you ready to decide that you are a powerful creator? The work you need to be doing is 100% an inside job.
4 WAYS YOU CAN BEGIN THE INNER WORK
Clearing out all the noise (clutter) in your mind. My favorite way to do that is journaling. I highly recommend trying to use the guided journal I created, Blissful Living Journal. It has 30+ days of prompts to help you really uncover your truth. Finding your truth is essential to manifesting success.
Clearing out the clutter in your life. Organizing your home so that it keeps you in a High Vibe environment. I explain how to do this in very specific detail here.
Reprogramming your belief system. It’s important that you have a strong self worth when you’re doing this work. There are many times when you alone are the only person who will believe in your bigger than average dreams. You have to be diligent is training your brain to believe in your power, in your worthiness.
Find someone to hold you accountable. As you are going through your growth process, it can feel lonely. You’ll need people around you to support your journey. Hire a personal coach or join a tribe like my community the House of Bliss. Every wildly successful woman I know has a coach or mentor guiding them. I personally invested a large amount of money in a coach who transformed my life by continually picking me up when I needed a reminder. When I did that, I immediately up-leveled my life, relationships and business. You’re different when you’ve invested in yourself, it’s the best investment you could possibly make. I cannot stress the importance of this. It’s hard to do spiritual and personal development on your own and when you invest in yourself in that way, you’re showing the universe you ARE that kind of woman. If you are looking for some guidance around this,
Ultimately, manifestation is an inside game. When you heal, align, decide, gain crystal clear clarity…that’s when you are able to really become more powerful than ever before. I am so incredibly grateful that I have learned the art of law of attraction and manifestation and I know that once you get it, you will too.
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